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From the [livejournal.com profile] altfriday5:

1. What is your preferred relationship structure? (polyamorous, monogamous, celibate, etc.) Why? Polyamorous...because imposing arbitrary limits on relationships just quit making sense to me once I thought about it. Not that all limits are arbitrary, but monogamy doesn't seem to be otherwise for me.

2. How long have you known that you preferred [insert answer from #1 here]? A few years--can't pin it down precisely because it was a gradual process. The part that took longest was realizing that I was capable of comfortably sharing serious partners and not just casual ones.

3. Have you ever had relationships that were not [insert answer from #1 here]? Once. It was back in high school, and we defaulted to monogamy just because it never occurred to us to do otherwise. I was a little disturbed, though, to find that my natural boy-craziness (not to mention my newfound girl-craziness) didn't slacken in the least during our relationship; I felt rather guilty about it but hoped it was simply due to my being new at this dating thing. Funny how many assumptions you can operate under without knowing it.

4. Are you currently in a [insert answer from #1 here] relationship? Why or why not? Er, several. I should think the reason would be obvious from my previous answers.

5. Would you consider having relationships that were not [insert answer from #1 here] in the future? Why or why not? I might consider it, if someone I loved enough to spend the rest of my life with asked it of me. Otherwise, though, it's hard to see how it would be worth it.
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P'raps I should inform people of this: I'll be at Baycon Saturday (and Saturday only). Anyone who wants to make sure they see me there, let me know. So far my plans are not very specific.
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Ki appears to have this fairly serious need for frequent attention of some sort, although he is generally not a lap cat.* Among other things, this results in his purring mightily whenever I scoop him into my lap, and then struggling to get down a few seconds later, while still purring.

I've begun to suspect he's part Maine Coon. Only part, mind you, but it would explain a few things.

*Not that he doesn't climb on people quite frequently--he just doesn't tend to curl up on them.
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What, if any, are the reasons it might be a bad idea to use the same email address for both personal and business correspondence? (Other than, say, if your personal address is something like biteme@yousuck.com, or if it's plastered all over the web on sites you don't want to be associated with in your professional life.)
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From the [livejournal.com profile] altfriday5:

1. What gender do you consider yourself? Er...uh...sorta-kinda-female?

2. Is this the gender you were assigned at birth? Without the modifiers, yes.

3. Do you like being your current gender? Why or why not?
I guess I'm pretty indifferent to it. I can't think of anything I really really like about it, but there isn't much I hugely dislike about it either--or maybe it's just that the things I do like and dislike are mostly not simple enough to be solely gender-related.

4. If you could change one thing about how society perceives/constructs your gender, what would it be? (don't go nuts here, I know the response to this could make for several doctoral theses)
If I could change one thing, I'd make gender distinctions completely irrelevant. Anything less sweeping than that, and I'd never be able to pick just one thing.

5. Everyone gets their ideas of what it means to be "a man" or "a woman" from somewhere (parents, movies, magazines, books). What was the single biggest influence on your gender identity?
Can't think of one. I mean, it's tough to point out just where I got my idea of "what it means to be a woman" when I can't recall ever having cared much about that question. I did get some rather warped ideas of what it meant to be an attractive woman, though, from growing up seventy miles from Hollywood, though I'm not sure how much of that was in fact universal teenage crap. Hell, UCB doesn't seem much better; walking around campus, I'm the only female undergrad I ever see who isn't wearing stereotypically feminine clothing, if not outright skank-wear. It depresses the fuck out of me sometimes.
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A couple of years ago I observed that I used to have the stressed-out-about-school kind of nightmares back in high school, when I wasn't anxious about school at all, and didn't seem to be having them any more once I got to college and actually did start stressing about school. Apparently that's no longer the case, 'cause I had one a couple nights ago.

I dreamed that I was enrolled this semester in the geometry class I actually took last semester, and although I'd been getting by and doing the work without attending classes, I suddenly realized that I still had to take the final to pass the class, which it hadn't occurred to me to plan on. In the dream, in fact, finals week had already started (in reality it doesn't start for another few days) and I realized with sudden horror that the geometry final might have already happened; next thing I knew, I was frantically searching for the exam schedule, but I think I woke up shortly after.

Annoyingly, there's a little too much of reality in this dream. I do in fact have classes that I haven't been attending but haven't dropped either (I was planning to, but some messed-up stuff happened 'round about the drop deadline) and have resigned myself to accepting NPs in, and I also have a couple of classes in which I'm frantically rushing to finish the work, and I'm worried I may have missed some deadlines that I thought were much later, which may in fact interfere with my graduating this term. It just seems to me that I'm stressed enough without my subconscious twisting that stress around and tricking me into thinking there are still other things to be worried about.
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From the [livejournal.com profile] altfriday5:

1. How many hours do you normally sleep at night? These days, 6 to 9, depending on whether I have to set an alarm or not.

2. Do you wish you had more time to sleep? Or do you wish that you slept less? More time or less need; either would be good. I'm not sure I really wish I had more waking hours in the day, though, so much as I wish they coincided better with other people's.

3. Do you like sleeping? It's kinda nice. Dreams are fun, and that warm comfortable falling-asleep sensation is a pleasure I'm learning to appreciate more these days.

4. What is the longest continuous period that you have spent awake? Why did you do it? I've stayed awake as long as 28 hours, I think, writing papers on various occasions. I don't seem to be able to go longer than that, though, without crashing hard. And cognitive impairment starts to kick in around the 12-hour mark anyway.

5. If you were offered the chance to eliminate sleep from your life, with absolutely no negative physical or psychological side effects, would you take it? Why or why not? What if this chance was only possible for you, and not for any of your friends or family, or society at large? If it was for everybody, I'd definitely take it--not to eliminate the need for sleep but to eliminate the conflicts between different people's diurnal cycles. In other words, to make the world a better place for us night owls. If it was just for me, I'd probably take it, because having more time to get work done would simplify my life at least as much as not sleeping through business hours would. The only drawback would be the boredom potential, but I imagine I'd find things to fill in my time with, especially if I were functioning at the much higher level I would be if I no longer needed the restful sleep that I'm not getting anyway.

Of course, this is assuming we're talking about eliminating the need for sleep. If it were just a question of never being able to sleep again, then for me that would translate to being brain-fogged all the time and not being able to do anything about it (since that's my natural state anyway), so no.

I think I may need to make a habit of this just to get writing something on a more regular basis.

On the other hand, I'm not sure why I feel I ought to write anything here at all on a regular basis. I just know that I do.


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