yeah, that is pretty much the way i feel about it. in the last several years the only time i've been in anything resembling an mono relationship is when there is simply only one person around that meets my criteria. i'm picky. pretty much the only way i see that changing is if someone super special wanted a mono relationship and i wasn't willing to lose/hurt them. So far since my late teens only one person has had that potential and...he's married- which really kinda blows the whole mono thing all to hell.