The difference, in my experience, comes from the quality of relationship you have with someone. I might see where direct honesty would be of value but saying anything in that vein to someone I don't have a relationship with is more likley to be ignore and I am more likely to be viewed as having poor social skills and not knowing when it is appropriate to put in my ten cents worth or not. I appreciate being called on my shit by people I am close to because they know me, know my motivations, know my intentions and are usually right on target. And, I appreciate that they are my friends and are willing to call me on my shit. Someone I barely know or have only a passing acquaintance might be able to do so if done appropriately.....but if it is done with brashness and know-it-all-ness......as if they know my experiences, know exactly what I'm up to......they are less likely to be received with respect and attention. Even if I do give them a polite but noncommittal response.