I've come to suspect that PSD is actually not a great way for me to meet people, but for different reasons than I would have thought. There are definitely people I can determine I'm not interested in within five minutes, and there are (a lot fewer) people I'm instantly attracted to, but the "maybes" are problematic. Sometimes I do get the feeling that I might become sufficiently interested in this person if I interacted with them a bit more -- but in that case, just one date is probably not going to be enough, and I'm not very keen to go on three or four dates just to see if attraction develops. I think that with people for whom my attraction grows slowly, it may be better to let it grow slowly over a period of just happening to hang out together in the same space, rather than making a point of spending time together one on one and thereby putting pressure on both of us to decide how we're feeling right away. And yes, I won't always get the chance to do that with a particular person, but there'll be other people I do get to do it with, so I figure it probably balances out overall.
(And no, that's not ironic; it's merely a coincidence. But it is indeed a poetic one.)
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Date: 2011-03-28 11:35 pm (UTC)(And no, that's not ironic; it's merely a coincidence. But it is indeed a poetic one.)