For various reasons, I'm not going to do that crush meme that's going around. However, I will say a few things:
Actually, the distinction between the first and last categories on that list is pretty arbitrary--I've just taken the range of "degree of certainty that they know I'm attracted to them" and cut it off at a point that seems to make sense on a gut level, but I've erred on the side of putting people in the latter category and there are really several borderline cases.
(This is where I begin to suspect I'm overthinking this.)
One thing to note, though, is that none of these secret crushes or whatever you want to call them are the deep pining kind or anything. It'd be cool if something happened there--if not, I'm not bothered. (Now, a couple of the non-secret ones have a certain element of mooniness to them, but that's a different story.)
I think I'll auto-screen comments to this post. I'll probably unscreen some of them; I may not reply to any of them.
- There are, by my count, ten people on my friends list who I'm pretty sure already know I like them--hell, I'm dating half of them, FCVO "dating."
- There are a few people on my list who I've gone "ooh, shiny" at in the past, and have since realized, for various reasons (including batting-for-the-wrong-team issues), that this shininess is not really going anywhere.
- There are a few more people who I'm still trying to decide if I'm attracted to. Some of them I've actually spoken to about this and some of them I haven't.
- Not counting those, there are by my count eight people on my friends list who I'm attracted to at least enough that I'd kinda like to go on a date er somethin with them, and who I'm not sure are aware of this, though I have reason to think a few of them may be. What's kind of sad is that half of them I haven't even met in person; those ones, at least, I'm pretty sure don't know. Though of course they may now be wondering....
Actually, the distinction between the first and last categories on that list is pretty arbitrary--I've just taken the range of "degree of certainty that they know I'm attracted to them" and cut it off at a point that seems to make sense on a gut level, but I've erred on the side of putting people in the latter category and there are really several borderline cases.
(This is where I begin to suspect I'm overthinking this.)
One thing to note, though, is that none of these secret crushes or whatever you want to call them are the deep pining kind or anything. It'd be cool if something happened there--if not, I'm not bothered. (Now, a couple of the non-secret ones have a certain element of mooniness to them, but that's a different story.)
I think I'll auto-screen comments to this post. I'll probably unscreen some of them; I may not reply to any of them.