I took it with an attitude of "If I had enough of everything, or if all else was equal, which would make me feel more warm fuzzies?"
I made a halfhearted attempt to do that, but evidently it's difficult if not impossible for me to imagine having enough of everything since it's not an experience I've had so far.
But I actually think mine was pretty accurate, on the relative scale of how much of each I like / what I tend to hurt from lacking first / what I express the most appreciation or give the most Whuffie for.
I think those last two are opposites for me. Some of these signs of affection I sort of take for granted and others I don't expect as much; the ones I expect less I show more appreciation for, but the ones I take for granted are the ones I'd miss first.
And that's not just romantic relationships, it also translates pretty well to my interactions with people.
Hmmm. I think with people I don't have romantic relationships with, all of those things are appreciated but I don't really expect any of them....
wait, aha moment. Signs of affection like that are one thing that differentiates a romantic relationship from a friendship or acquaintanceship. Without them, or with much less of them, I can still be some kinda friends with a person but not maintain a Relationship with them. But it's more a matter of quantitative than qualitative difference, perhaps.
And on the flipside, it also corresponds to what I tend to default-offer when I want to make someone else feel good
I'm not sure if I default-offer the things I need most or just the things that are easiest for me to do.
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Date: 2004-09-02 03:26 am (UTC)I made a halfhearted attempt to do that, but evidently it's difficult if not impossible for me to imagine having enough of everything since it's not an experience I've had so far.
But I actually think mine was pretty accurate, on the relative scale of how much of each I like / what I tend to hurt from lacking first / what I express the most appreciation or give the most Whuffie for.
I think those last two are opposites for me. Some of these signs of affection I sort of take for granted and others I don't expect as much; the ones I expect less I show more appreciation for, but the ones I take for granted are the ones I'd miss first.
And that's not just romantic relationships, it also translates pretty well to my interactions with people.
Hmmm. I think with people I don't have romantic relationships with, all of those things are appreciated but I don't really expect any of them....
wait, aha moment. Signs of affection like that are one thing that differentiates a romantic relationship from a friendship or acquaintanceship. Without them, or with much less of them, I can still be some kinda friends with a person but not maintain a Relationship with them. But it's more a matter of quantitative than qualitative difference, perhaps.
And on the flipside, it also corresponds to what I tend to default-offer when I want to make someone else feel good
I'm not sure if I default-offer the things I need most or just the things that are easiest for me to do.