Friday Five: Relationships

[vvvexation]

From the altfriday5:

1. What is your preferred relationship structure? (polyamorous, monogamous, celibate, etc.) Why? Polyamorous...because imposing arbitrary limits on relationships just quit making sense to me once I thought about it. Not that all limits are arbitrary, but monogamy doesn't seem to be otherwise for me.

2. How long have you known that you preferred [insert answer from #1 here]? A few years--can't pin it down precisely because it was a gradual process. The part that took longest was realizing that I was capable of comfortably sharing serious partners and not just casual ones.

3. Have you ever had relationships that were not [insert answer from #1 here]? Once. It was back in high school, and we defaulted to monogamy just because it never occurred to us to do otherwise. I was a little disturbed, though, to find that my natural boy-craziness (not to mention my newfound girl-craziness) didn't slacken in the least during our relationship; I felt rather guilty about it but hoped it was simply due to my being new at this dating thing. Funny how many assumptions you can operate under without knowing it.

4. Are you currently in a [insert answer from #1 here] relationship? Why or why not? Er, several. I should think the reason would be obvious from my previous answers.

5. Would you consider having relationships that were not [insert answer from #1 here] in the future? Why or why not? I might consider it, if someone I loved enough to spend the rest of my life with asked it of me. Otherwise, though, it's hard to see how it would be worth it.

Comments

[zwol.livejournal.com]

Why is it that when I go and look at altfriday5 I never see the questions you're answering?

[tsgeisel.livejournal.com]

Regarding #5 - monogamy isn't necessarily deciding that you'll only be with one person - in its ideal form it's only *wanting* to be with one person.

You never know when it could sneak up on you...

Just sayin'.