I've ranted on this topic for years. You're actually the only other person I've seen discuss it.
When I was in college lots of my friends complained how they didn't get dates because they were "nice guys" and "all the girls go for jerks". When they said "all the girls" they really meant all the hot women who wore provocative clothing. They would never consider dating the shy girl in the corner. The non-flashy girl. The nice girl. They were always fixated on a handful of women who were the center of lots of other guys attention as well.
The other thing being a "nice guy" who doesn't get dates means, is having a low self confidence, which is rarely attractive. Particularly to the flashy girls. And usually they present no interesting personality. They're just nice, and kind of dull. Women don't want jerks, but most do want someone exciting. So do guys.
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Date: 2005-07-07 05:42 am (UTC)I've ranted on this topic for years. You're actually the only other person I've seen discuss it.
When I was in college lots of my friends complained how they didn't get dates because they were "nice guys" and "all the girls go for jerks". When they said "all the girls" they really meant all the hot women who wore provocative clothing. They would never consider dating the shy girl in the corner. The non-flashy girl. The nice girl. They were always fixated on a handful of women who were the center of lots of other guys attention as well.
The other thing being a "nice guy" who doesn't get dates means, is having a low self confidence, which is rarely attractive. Particularly to the flashy girls. And usually they present no interesting personality. They're just nice, and kind of dull. Women don't want jerks, but most do want someone exciting. So do guys.