I agree. I generally suck at this in a really big way.
I have this one friend back in Chicago where I'll say something and have the whole room take offence, then she will repeat exactly the same thoughts with a slightly different tone and a barely noticable shift of words and the same room will congradulate her for her depth... at which point she would point out they had just condemned me for saying the same thing a minute ago.
Recently I got to know a woman who would insult people hard core to their faces but with an ironic tone (even though she was saying exactly what she thought) only to have them only laugh and tell her how much they love her.
Its like theater I guess, everything is in the delivery and most folks can't seem to see past that -- which for my part I have always pointed out was why Hitler made it to the head of German government.
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Date: 2005-08-27 06:28 pm (UTC)I have this one friend back in Chicago where I'll say something and have the whole room take offence, then she will repeat exactly the same thoughts with a slightly different tone and a barely noticable shift of words and the same room will congradulate her for her depth... at which point she would point out they had just condemned me for saying the same thing a minute ago.
Recently I got to know a woman who would insult people hard core to their faces but with an ironic tone (even though she was saying exactly what she thought) only to have them only laugh and tell her how much they love her.
Its like theater I guess, everything is in the delivery and most folks can't seem to see past that -- which for my part I have always pointed out was why Hitler made it to the head of German government.