Is it weird pheromones or something?

[vvvexation]

The guy who does yardwork for my co-tenant just knocked on the front door to tell me the dome light in my car was on. I thanked him for telling me, and went out to turn it off -- and he followed me out there and kept talking. Told me he'd been wanting to meet me for a long time but my neighbor had said not to bother me (which I guess means he'd jumped at this excuse to talk to me), told me his name and flat-out asked for mine when I didn't spontaneously offer it (I fucking hate that). And finally flat-out asked me out, in almost as direct terms as one can without mentioning the word "date."

This based on about two minutes' conversation and, what, six months of mystery? And if he has seen as much of my clutter as I think he might've seen through my windows, I'd think that would be more of a turnoff than anything. I guess maybe the "mysterious recluse" thing has some kind of princess-in-a-tower allure...?

But jeez, I dunno, man.


(Meanwhile, the aforementioned dome light is also behaving oddly; it should've turned itself off last night and I don't know why it didn't. I'm waiting till I'm sure he's gone, though, before I go back out to check if my battery is dead.)

Comments

[cjsmith.livejournal.com]

told me his name and flat-out asked for mine when I didn't spontaneously offer it (I fucking hate that)

I've been known to reply "Not looking for a partner" (or, depending on context, "Not single") to questions that are just a little too intrusive like that. Oddly enough, the percentage of time it's stunningly effective is really quite high.

[vito-excalibur.livejournal.com]

Go neighbor for telling him not to bother you, at least.

[rose42dance.livejournal.com]

Aw, you have a new puppy!

Puppies - whether human or real - don't get "subtle" or "diplomatic." They prefer direct bonks on the nose, even if verbal. They'll follow you everywhere if you let them. The ones who have no life or personality of their own are the worst - and it sounds like this guy is one of those.

Good luck on steering him clear. Sounds like the nice neighbor was able to assess the situation as "eager clueless fellow does not equal good match for quiet smart reclusive chick." Maybe tap into the neighbor's brain for help on having the puppy back down?

[pure-agnostic.livejournal.com]

I guess maybe the "mysterious recluse" thing has some kind of princess-in-a-tower allure...?

What happens if you don't live up to the mysterious princess in a tower image?

If I were in that spot, I'd have politely declined his offer for a date. And just left it at that. You don't need to volunteer any info about not looking for a partner, your single-or-not status, or whether you'd date him if you were. If he is considerate, he can accept a polite "no, thanks".

[mordwen.livejournal.com]

Just out of interest, what's wrong with asking for your name?

I think I'm starting to get some clue about why people find me abrasive... here was I thinking for these 40 years that I was just being enthusiastic. 8^(